At this point you know you have to do something- change.
So much of what we learn, we get from the things and people that come and aren’t meant to stay. That’s definitely okay. It’s part of the norm that is called life. If it weren’t for those, you wouldn’t be able to think of what you really deserve. Don’t think about what you will lose; think about what you will gain when you decide to lose grip from these unhealthy things.
You don’t lose in life, it’s either you win or learn.
Whatever it is- whether it is a love you’ve been holding on to, a habit you’ve been living almost your whole life or a job you don’t feel happy about, if it’s not healthy anymore, muster up the courage to get out of the sitch.
But first step is, you have to acknowledge that it doesn’t serve you a positive purpose anymore.
For that love you thought was for you
Love is a great feeling. The best feeling of elation, anyone would agree.
It’s a two-way street. You always reciprocate what your partner gives you. But when it becomes unfair, you know there’s something wrong. When trust is broken, everything else follows.
But just because you love someone, you say words you never imagined yourself saying and do things you never thought you would.
You know you’re worth it, other people think highly of you as someone they’ll be lucky to have, and yet someone who you could have given up on a long time ago for hurting you never looked at you that way. For him/her you weren’t close to being enough.With a petty mistake he/she blamed on you, everything else withered.
You sometimes blame yourself for the things that are out of hand. Just a reminder: You cannot work it out if you’re the only one working in the first place.
But then again you think, sometimes you learn the hard way. You know it wasn’t right for you from the beginning but you still chose to waste your time.
For that habit you cannot leave / a situation you are stuck on:
It made you happy for a while, it supplemented your needs, it fulfilled you in some ways, but you’re suddenly feeling second thoughts. Should you leave it? I tell you, the moment you start doubting is the very first sign you should quit.
Maybe it was meant to satisfy you for a time, but hey, some things aren’t bound to last. When the existence of something makes you stagnant, it stops you from growing. You aren’t living life properly resisting growth.
Withdraw yourself from the situation. Know your worth and do not settle for anything less.
“At some point you will realize that you have done too much for someone or something, that the only next possible step to do is top. Leave them alone. Walk away. It’s not like you are giving up, and it’s not like you shouldn’t try. It’s just that you have to draw the line of determination from desperation. What is truly yours would eventually be yours and what is not, no matter how hard you try, will never be.”
Say this to someone who hurt you and/or the things you need to outgrow:
Your impact might have changed me in some positive and negative ways, but what you made me feel is something I won’t ever allow to happen to me again. I might not be thankful for the pain, but I’m thankful for making me realize I deserve so much better than what you offered.
Say this to yourself:
“You have always been good enough,
you’ve just been giving the best parts of you to the wrong people.”-R.H. Sin
thing: the loss was never yours, it’s theirs. Remember the person you
wanted to be, forget all the compromises, focus on yourself and works
towards what will make you feel better.
Now I say this to you, you have to remember that:
“Sometimes strength is choosing to get up and get on with it, even if you never understand why something happened the way it did. There’s probably a reason why it never worked to way you wanted it to”
People change. There’s usually no warning and sometimes, they don’t care if it hurts you.
Trust and time – be careful who you give them to, becausenot everyone is worthy of it. Time, when wasted, cannot be taken back; trust, when broken, cannot be totally repaired.
Sharing to you two of my favorite advices /quotes:
Quoting Pinelopis, “Stop. Listen to me. You’re holding on to the fact that what you’ve been through has put you in a harmonious position to receive things that could only be available through all of your pain. How would it be possible to find the right one or right thing if it weren’t for all of the heartbreak & damage by all the tests. You wouldn’t. Realize that you are not your past, not what you’ve been through, but simply – a more ready you, ready and capable of having more… To find the one who stays.”
“You change for two reasons: either you learn enough that you want to, or you’ve been hurt enough that you have to.“
Whichever your reason is, do yourself a favor and take the high road.
*random quotes found online, cto